Men and Stephen Ministry

You’ve heard it time and time again: “Pull yourself together. . . . Cheer up. . . . Tough it out. . . . It’s not that bad.” Perhaps people have said it to you. Or perhaps you keep saying it to yourself. But it hasn’t helped. You’re still hurting. Things are coming apart. Here’s the good news: You don’t have to go through your struggles alone. Help is available.

However, men tend to find it especially difficult to express and share their feelings. Sometimes men fall into a trap where we think it’s a sign of weakness to ask for help. So when they’re stressed, discouraged, lonely, or sad, they try to keep their struggles hidden and are reluctant to ask for help. Psychologist Gregg Henriques writes that traditional masculine role socialization guides many men into ways of being such that their masculine identity conflicts with many emotions they feel and what they feel they are “allowed” to express (i.e., they will be shamed and will feel as if they are “not real men” if they express feelings of vulnerability, dependency needs, weakness, etc.).

However, that’s not God’s plan. Galatians 6:2 says, “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” God wants us to care for others—and allow others to care for us in our time of need. Our Stephen Ministers are trained caregivers who will walk with you, listen to you, and provide confidential, one-to-one care as you search through the pieces and find what is truly in your heart. 

For more information about Stephen Ministry, you can go to or just look for one of our members with a blue name tag.  If you would like the care of a Stephen Minister, please call Laura Eichner (women) 512- 656-4372 or Ernie Klatt (men) 512-569-6881.